You can accelerate the healing of your body and mind during and after the process of perpetration.
During the awful experience of being subject to victimization of any kind, your body builds defenses physically and emotionally. These defenses manifest in your muscles and can even lead to spinal changes as the muscles tense for long periods of time.
After the process of perpetration is over, your muscles have built-in memories of the acts done against you and of the words spoken against you. These stored memories need to be released by speaking, through some form of counseling, and through some type massage therapy.
Seeing a chiropractor would be advisable at any point, while you are being made into a target/victim and after the problem is solved.
Remember, the post victimization period has landed with some level of post traumatic stress. Seek healing for your body as well as for your emotions.
Your thinking, your cognition, i.e., the way you see the world and perceive what is around you, might have gone through some changes. Give yourself time to heal. As you heal your cognitive process sharpen and you become more focused because the fear of the victimization would not have power to distort your emotions or the images you have of truth.
Remember always that you're not crazy, perpetrators usually are. Be patient with yourself in the process of healing
The process of healing starts right after the perpetration, that is why you are able to last in it for so long. But your body needs help from therapeutic counseling and therapeutic massage.
Monday, September 2, 2013
Employee vs. You: employee liability and HR http://www.epspros.com/NewsResources/Newsletters?find=13954
http://www.epspros.com/NewsResources/Newsletters?find=13954
Says Ann E. <<The frequency of employment claims means that many employees are feeling mistreated in the workplace. And for every complaint alleged in the workplace there are managers and others who carried out those actions. Do you have any responsibility in hiring, discipline, granting leaves of absence, salary and benefits? As you are going through your daily business, do you think about how your actions may subject you to liability? Honestly, in the heat of a workplace investigation, or disciplinary action, do you really have time to sit back and ask yourself, “could what I’m doing land me in court?”..>>
Says Debbie Pearl: Before you make a decision in favor of a perpetrator, be very sure that you are right. HR is often in the position of helping the employer by messing the life of the victim. You could be liable, more so if you threaten the victim/target, and/or if you take very little action to favor the victim. There are ways of putting a reign on perpetrators and still protecting the victim.
It's not only a matter of conscience, but it's wisdom that should tell you that you better be truthful and do what is right.
Says Ann E. <<The frequency of employment claims means that many employees are feeling mistreated in the workplace. And for every complaint alleged in the workplace there are managers and others who carried out those actions. Do you have any responsibility in hiring, discipline, granting leaves of absence, salary and benefits? As you are going through your daily business, do you think about how your actions may subject you to liability? Honestly, in the heat of a workplace investigation, or disciplinary action, do you really have time to sit back and ask yourself, “could what I’m doing land me in court?”..>>
Says Debbie Pearl: Before you make a decision in favor of a perpetrator, be very sure that you are right. HR is often in the position of helping the employer by messing the life of the victim. You could be liable, more so if you threaten the victim/target, and/or if you take very little action to favor the victim. There are ways of putting a reign on perpetrators and still protecting the victim.
It's not only a matter of conscience, but it's wisdom that should tell you that you better be truthful and do what is right.
http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/the_breakfast_table/features/2013/supreme_court_2013/sexual_harassment_at_the_supreme_court_lessons_from_the_ice_cream_store.html
Disappointing decision by the Supreme Court regarding supervisors?
Sunday, August 18, 2013
Bullying and Body Image Distortion (dysmorphia)
Victims of bullying can develop dysmorphia, a distorted image of their own body that can lead to eating disorders and to different forms of addiction. This facts are poignantly revealed by Brian Cuban.
"All, he said in a recent interview, stemmed from the "monster" he began seeing in his mirror as a socially crippled teenager who was overweight and bullied, both at school and by his own mother, herself a victim of body-focused verbal abuse from his grandmother. "
http://www.apa.org/news/psycport/PsycPORTArticle.aspx?id=ap_2013_08_05_ap.online.all_DA7VUHCO2_news_ap_org.anpa.xml
Brian has a blog that can give you insight into what you are dealing with and, hopefully, on how to change it. http://www.briancuban.com/category/eating-disorders-2/#.UhGYED8rVIo
Freedom from victimization is a choice always available to you, at any age and in any season of your life. The choice is yours. To get there you might need the help not just of friends and family but of those that have gained experience in healing, whether pastors, lay ministers, lay counselors, counselors, or psychologists. But, you will get there. When you get there, the choice is yours. I pray that you will choose the be FREE.
If you don't want to get there, maybe, you are enamored of your victimization, you are too familiar with the effects and the negatives it stimulates. They have become part of your system, perhaps?
"All, he said in a recent interview, stemmed from the "monster" he began seeing in his mirror as a socially crippled teenager who was overweight and bullied, both at school and by his own mother, herself a victim of body-focused verbal abuse from his grandmother. "
http://www.apa.org/news/psycport/PsycPORTArticle.aspx?id=ap_2013_08_05_ap.online.all_DA7VUHCO2_news_ap_org.anpa.xml
Brian has a blog that can give you insight into what you are dealing with and, hopefully, on how to change it. http://www.briancuban.com/category/eating-disorders-2/#.UhGYED8rVIo
Freedom from victimization is a choice always available to you, at any age and in any season of your life. The choice is yours. To get there you might need the help not just of friends and family but of those that have gained experience in healing, whether pastors, lay ministers, lay counselors, counselors, or psychologists. But, you will get there. When you get there, the choice is yours. I pray that you will choose the be FREE.
If you don't want to get there, maybe, you are enamored of your victimization, you are too familiar with the effects and the negatives it stimulates. They have become part of your system, perhaps?
Friday, July 5, 2013
Legally Gagging the Victim. Read about it @ I'm Going Home: I Reported Harassment and Now HR Wants to Meet With Me. What Do I Do?
Why this blog
I created this blog to give a voice to the victims of abuse, rape, harassment, and sexual harassment, hoping that as their Silent Shout is given a voice healing can happen.
You might not have ever been hit by your partner/spouse, but have you been shouted into unconsciousness? Into an unconsciousness of who you are and what you're about, and what your purpose in life is?
Maybe the person doesn't shout and insult you. He/she is generally angry and curses and screams "all the time," This is also painful and it disrespects you. Sometimes, from behavior like this, 'victimizers' flip and escalate into other verbal and/or physical violence. Have you tried to stop it? Have you called the police? Did you know that there is anger management training? Have you tried it? How did it work?
Maybe your partner thinks of him/herself only. Everything is about him/her. Sex is painful because of the selfishness and carelessness involved. Maybe your children, sex, or anything else is being used to control you. How do you deal with it? How did you get out of a relationship like this?
Maybe you are a target of victimization at work, where a co-worker or a supervisor bullies you or sexually harasses you? How are you coping? What have you done about it?
Have you been raped, that ultimate form of control and of death by a perpetrator. Speak to us, talk about it here.
You don't have to use your real name until you can speak about it openly, fearlessly.
You might not have ever been hit by your partner/spouse, but have you been shouted into unconsciousness? Into an unconsciousness of who you are and what you're about, and what your purpose in life is?
Maybe the person doesn't shout and insult you. He/she is generally angry and curses and screams "all the time," This is also painful and it disrespects you. Sometimes, from behavior like this, 'victimizers' flip and escalate into other verbal and/or physical violence. Have you tried to stop it? Have you called the police? Did you know that there is anger management training? Have you tried it? How did it work?
Maybe your partner thinks of him/herself only. Everything is about him/her. Sex is painful because of the selfishness and carelessness involved. Maybe your children, sex, or anything else is being used to control you. How do you deal with it? How did you get out of a relationship like this?
Maybe you are a target of victimization at work, where a co-worker or a supervisor bullies you or sexually harasses you? How are you coping? What have you done about it?
Have you been raped, that ultimate form of control and of death by a perpetrator. Speak to us, talk about it here.
You don't have to use your real name until you can speak about it openly, fearlessly.
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